Buddies or Bullies?
I have some friends and they have been teasing me because I go to church every Wednesday and Sunday, (my dad is a pastor) I also get teased because my dad is a pastor, but I love him and his job so what should I do?
It’s hard when people you count on as friends don’t seem very friendly themselves. Teasing is hard to pin down: sometimes people tease in a kidding, loving way with people they are comfortable with. Sometimes when people tease it’s really bullying in disguise. Do these friends normally treat you with respect – or not?
The Bible tells us that when we have a problem, we should bring it up privately and respectfully. Tell your friends, “When you make fun of me for going to church and because my dad is a pastor, it bothers me. I know you wouldn’t want to hurt my feelings so I wanted to let you know.” See how they handle it. They may apologize, and/or they may simply treat you more kindly, which is cool. If they keep the harsh teasing up, though, it’s time to end the relationship. God never tells us to stay in bullying or abusive situations. Their reaction will show you if they are truly your friends.
One important thing to keep in mind: our value does not depend on what other people think of us. Our great value is in what God thinks of us. And His love never fails.
Always be ready to answer everyone who asks you to explain about the hope you have. But answer in a gentle way and with respect. Always feel that you are doing right. The those who speak evil of your good life in Christ will be made ashamed.
1 Peter 3:15B – 16