He Likes Me, He Likes Me Not
Dear Auntie Agony,
WELL… there’s this boy that i like but i don’t know if he really likes me back, and he flirts with all the girls at my church. And he shows off all the time! And it’s really annoying…but why does he flirt with girls all the time???? And how do i know if he really likes me???
Ah, the question all girls want to ask – is he just being friendly, or is he being extra-friendly to me? And you know what? It’s hard to tell. I asked my resident expert, a seventeen year old boy. This is what he says:
“Dudes like to talk and flirt with a lot of girls, it’s interesting to them, and we think it’s interesting to you. Plus, when we talk with our own friends, a lot of it is jokey, and playful and poking fun at one another. When we talk with chicks who are our friends, we treat them just like the dudes. But – when we like a girl, we’re more likely to tone things down with her a little. We talk to her a bit more softly, we are more interested in what she has to say.”
Does the boy you like take more time with you? Talk a bit more softly? If so, he might return your interest. If not, he probably thinks of you as one of his friends. Which isn’t all bad, but maybe is a signal for you that it’s time to move on!
“There are three things that are too amazing for me, four that I do not understand:
the way of an eagle in the sky,
the way of a snake on a rock,
the way of a ship on the high seas,
and the way of a man with a maiden.
Proverbs 30:18-19