Okay, the first thing you have to do is define what “mean” is. Is she trash talking you behind your back or cutting you down in public? Making you follower to her leader? Or is she simply not doing things your way? Maybe you were coming on too strong since you’re so happy to have her as a friend now. Don’t try to take new friendships from zero to sixty. If you did, she might have chilled things a bit to get some personal space.
After you’ve checked yourself out, you might ask her, “Did I do something to offend you? Can we talk about it?”
If she’s still mean then it’s time to take a closer look at your new “friend”. Consider the lowly lemon tree. At first you can’t tell the difference between it and any other kind of tree. Right? But then as time goes on maybe one lemon comes out, then two. The longer you stick with the tree, the more lemons you see. It takes time for real character to come out.
Don’t constantly analyze or gossip to see if you’re the only person seeing sour fruit. Don’t waste your time trying to change this person, either. If the problems don’t go away, look around and find good, sweet, kind friends. ‘Cause no matter what you do, until the other girl’s heart is changed, she can only serve lemonade.
A tree is identified by its fruit. Make a tree good, and its fruit will be good. Make a tree bad, and its fruit will be bad…For whatever is in your heart determine what you say. A good person produces good fruit from a good heart, and an evil person produces evil fruit from an evil heart. Matthew 12:33-35 NLT
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